Sunday, July 24, 2011

As I sit here today

I read posts on facebook about how unhappy some peoples lives are. I am reminded that three years ago today, I sat by my dying sisters bedside, helpless. There was nothing I could do to help her, to change the situation. I sang with her, I fed her, I held her hand, I gave her water, I cried and I prayed for things to be different. I wanted my sister to talk to me but she couldn't. I wanted her to sit up, get out of that bed and tell me she was going to be okay but she didn't. I wanted her to come back to my house, have dinner, hang out with the kids, like we always did but she would never do that again. As I think about the vacation we took to Mexico, it's all a memory. We will never walk those beaches again.
I left her house that night knowing, but not accepting, what I knew God was going to do. I would never hug my sister again, I would never hear her voice again. My kids weren't going to see her again. It was all a memory.
So, before you post that post to complain about something that you can change remember there is someone out there dealing with something they can't change.
If he is not good for you, don't have a baby with him. If he cheats on you, don't stay with him. If it's too hot outside, go sit somewhere with A/C. If you kids make you crazy, thank God they are healthy. If your parents did you wrong, forgive them and move on.
Resentment will get you nowhere. You control your destiny, you make choices, make them good ones. Complaining doesn't fix it. Don't blame anyone else for your unhappiness.
Life will hand you things that are out of your control, make lemonade out of the lemons or wine out of the sour grapes which ever you prefer.
I watched my sister deal with learning she had cancer, she never complained. She made the best out of each day. She lived life to the fullest. She never wished it wasn't her.
If she were here today and had a facebook page her status wouldn't be negative, it would be:
"Life is good"
just like her bumper sticker used to say.
Or maybe it would be:
"Enjoy life, it's too short to be unhappy."
"Celebrate life, it may not be yours tomorrow."


Cassie said...

Some people really need to hear this. You are such an amazing soul!

Robert Coggins said...

Sherry, I can't believe it has been 3 years. Thanks for these profound thoughts. Appreciate them.

Bob Coggins